If you have read my blog, you may know that I love my five dogs. I run “the boys” on a path/track on our property daily. The other week, Caleb, our five-year old Chocolate Pointer-Lab mix, hurt his foot badly. So of course, I couldn’t allow him to go for a run for several days while it healed. However, I still took the other four dogs for the 4-mile run and left Caleb in our fenced-in backyard. Well, like any normal dog, his favorite thing to do is go for a run, so he whined and cried the entire time we were out–each and every day. As I ran past him lap after lap, day after day while he sat behind the fence, the Lord decided to teach me a lesson through Caleb’s unfortunate situation. Jesus showed me that there were essentially two basic ways that he could interpret the situation:

1. That he was bad. That he messed up. That he wasn’t a good enough dog that day. That I was mad at him.

2. That I was bad. That I wasn’t a good owner. That I was just mean. That I had it out for him. That I didn’t love him.

How often is that our response to God when we are in a season of suffering, or things just aren’t going as we hoped or planned? First of all, that somehow WE are bad. That we have messed up. That God is angry with us. That we have done something wrong, and now God is punishing us. We know He LOVES us, but He doesn’t really LIKE us.

Secondly, our response could be that GOD is bad. That He is just plain mean. That He has “favorites” and we aren’t one of them. That God is just waiting to catch us doing something wrong, in order to punish us. That everyone else gets good things, but God just doesn’t like us, so He delights in withholding joy from us. To say it plainly, God isn’t a good Father and He doesn’t love His children.

OH MY…what erroneous, heretical words! How horrific and heart-breaking to know that so many BELIEVERS go through life believing either of those two lies. A.W. Tozer, a twentieth century theologian, said, “What comes to your mind when you think about God is the most important thing about you.” He means that our theology and perception of God directly affect how we relate to the Lord. Our belief system dictates our actions. If what we believe about God is unbiblical then we are living in bondage to lies of the enemy. We will be unable to live life to the fullest (John 10:10). What a tragedy!

For example, if I believe that God is mad at me whenever I sin (i.e. all the time), then my tendency to approach Him with boldness and vulnerability–or to even approach Him at all–is severely minimized! How many of us have confidence and security around a person who we feel is mad at us? Another example: if I believe that God is just a mean, distant Father who just has it out for me and doesn’t really love me, again I wouldn’t feel an ease in approaching and talking to Him. In fact, there would most likely be some measure of resentment and anger toward Him. Either way, these are faulty beliefs and are damaging to our relationships with God, if not brought to light and corrected with Scripture.

To be clear: what I am talking about has nothing to do with what we KNOW about God. Most, if not all, of us KNOW that the Bible says, “God is love” and “God so loved the world.” Most of us can sing “Jesus Loves Me” like we were 5 years old again. What I am talking about goes beyond what we KNOW, and dives into the realm of beliefs. For example, is there a cigarette smoker who does not KNOW that cigarettes will eventually kill him? Until he BELIEVES it, though, he will not quit smoking. As I stated before: our beliefs dictate our actions.

What do you believe about God? Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any lies. He is faithful. Then, inundate yourself with Scripture, filling your heart and mind with the Truth–it will set you free (John 8:32).

Remember Caleb? Why did I not allow him to run? Because he was a bad dog or because I was a bad owner? Of course not! I had to keep him from something he loved for his good. I knew what was best for him. He had a wound that needed to heal. I had to keep him from doing something that would prohibit his healing, and that would most likely worsen the wound. He couldn’t see that. He only knew that I withheld his favorite thing from him, but not from others.

Can I be honest here? We all have hurts and (dare I say it) issues. Only the Lord knows them all intimately and He wants to heal them. He also wants to protect us from further hurts or from that which may prohibit our healing. Often times we have no idea what God is doing or why, but if we have biblical theology then we can trust Him as good and what He is doing as for our good.

This is truth: God the Father only has perfect, unending, unfailing, redeeming love for those of us who know Him. Jesus the Son only has good thoughts toward us. God the Holy Spirit wants to fill us to overflowing with love from the Father. God chose us from before the foundation of the world. In love, He predestined us to be adopted as sons and daughters (Ephesians 1).

God is absolutely good. You are absolutely loved. Period.


7 thoughts on “hurt.

  1. Awesome message! Reminds me of an analogy the Lord gave me last week when I was talking to a friend who recently lost her husband and has been sending her daughter to counseling as well as bereavement camps. Her daughter who is a pre-teen DOES NOT want to go to these type things and tells her mom that she is ok and does not need them. But, her mom has been diligent about sending her. None the less, it’s a struggle and my friend told me that she feels so quilty when her daughter looks up at her with those big baby blues and pleads with her about not wanting to go to the counseling/camps. I shared with her that when our children are babies, as much as we know the shots they need hurt them, in fact, make them scream, get a nasty bump, run a low-grade temp and just feel miserable, we still let the doctor give them the shot because we know it’s best for them and it’s for their protection. Sometimes, parents just like the Lord as our Heavenly parent, has to allow situations that we don’t like or understand but ultimately are for our own good and protection. 🙂 Hope this makes sense………..a bit tired from traveling back from SC today. love ya

  2. court, thanks for pointing me to read this. i was immensely encouraged by those words… definitely something i’ve been working over for a while, and this last weekend especially. it breaks my heart when i step back and realize that i’ve been doubting the trustworthiness of God by not really BELIEVING his promises that he clearly spells out in His Word. brought me to my knees this weekend, and this was a great great perspective – what a great analogy for what happens to us on a daily basis.
    Christ in you is joy itself and i love seeing Him at work in you! love you lots!

  3. Like the cliche… Wisdom from the mouths of babes. To me, you are a small, funny child. Yet one I am amazed by.

    Keep writing little one. The world has a lot to learn.

  4. courtney. thank you again. i JUST started the knowledge of the holy by aw tozer last week and i’m only reading a chapter a week to let it soak in and everything. but that quote you used was from the first chapter and it was the one part of the book that i hadn’t quite grasped. but the way you explained it made perfect sense. God continues to use you in my life for such great encouragement. i definitely needed reminded of this today. and, i’m excited to continue reading tozer’s book so that i can have a fuller understanding of who God is. 🙂 love you.

  5. WOW! Sometimes I feel exactly like that…hurt and just not good enough. After reading this message, no one can tell me anything. I know that I am always going to be good enough just because God made me. HIS opinion is the only one that matters. If everyone in the world read this message, there would be an enormous difference in their attitude and way of life…

  6. I’m offended that I am not on your blog roll.
    Don’t expect me to put you on mine until then! 🙂

    Sarah Knepper’s ambassador blog made it? that job ended in december.


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